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The worst possible reason to visit home.

I'm in Erie, and I will be for the next little while.

The good news: Dad is under the care of one of the best palliative care specialists in the nation.

The bad news: Dad is under the care of one of the best palliative care specialists in the nation. The prognosis is that he has just a few days left.

I'll be here until the end, and beyond for the funeral and to help Mom. What we're going to do long term is an open question, and I'm worried about her.

When my grandfather died, it was after months of lingering in a home with very little function, and Dad has been vehement ever since that he absolutely doesn't want that. His certainty on that point (DNR et al.) has made this a little easier, and at least he'll be spared the sort of end that he feared. And in the grand scheme of things, a peaceful death with his family around him pretty much qualifies as a happy ending. It just doesn't feel that way just now.

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aphoenixrain
Aug. 4th, 2010 02:44 am (UTC)
Very sorry to hear about this development. My thoughts and sympathy are with you as you go through this very difficult time. I'm sure the fact that he is surrounded by loved ones will provide much comfort to your father.
zeldajean
Aug. 4th, 2010 02:47 am (UTC)
My condolences, and comforting thought to carry you through the difficult times ahead.
tsjafo
Aug. 4th, 2010 02:51 am (UTC)
*hugs*
elanya
Aug. 4th, 2010 03:04 am (UTC)
*hugs* again here - you have some time - make the best of it, is my advice.
raynaarwyn
Aug. 4th, 2010 03:07 am (UTC)
I'm so sorry...you are all in my thoughts.

*hugs*
intenselaura
Aug. 4th, 2010 03:26 am (UTC)
*hugs* I'm so sorry.
solarbird
Aug. 4th, 2010 03:31 am (UTC)
Damn. So very difficult. I'm sorry.
jeliza
Aug. 4th, 2010 03:58 am (UTC)
I so sorry, sweetheart.
laura_seabrook
Aug. 4th, 2010 04:07 am (UTC)
*HUGS*
hobbitbabe
Aug. 4th, 2010 04:11 am (UTC)
I'm here, and I'm listening, and I'll keep thinking of all of you.
cassidyrose
Aug. 4th, 2010 06:39 am (UTC)
I am so, so sorry. I will be thinking of you and your family.
trinker
Aug. 4th, 2010 08:16 am (UTC)
Wishing you all the strength and courage you'll need for the coming days, and hoping that you are surrounded with love and support.
tocityguy
Aug. 4th, 2010 11:34 am (UTC)
*hugs*

If there is anything I can do please don't hesitate to ask!

There really isn't more I can say except I'm sorry.
futabachan
Aug. 6th, 2010 03:43 pm (UTC)
The one thing that you and/or Rachel could do to help would be to look after Sibyl, keeping her litterbox empty and her food and water full. The food should just need to be shaken periodically; if the reserve runs out, there's a bag right there in the bathroom, along with another box of litter. If the bag somehow runs out, that brand can be obtained from the vet around the corner; we can pay you when we get home.

Oh! Is Amanda's scooter still by the front railing? Would you cover it up with a tarp if it is, so it doesn't get rained on?

Anyway, thanks, and we'll see you when we see you.
janetmiles
Aug. 4th, 2010 12:24 pm (UTC)
It just doesn't feel that way just now.

No, it doesn't, but I believe it will make a difference to you later. I've been in your shoes; if there's anything I can do to help, please let me know.

You and your family will be in my thoughts for the best possible outcome for your father, and for strength and courage and support for all of you.
johnpalmer
Aug. 4th, 2010 03:21 pm (UTC)
I'm glad that he's had his chance to make his choice, and that he has a good doctor to watch over him. But that's still a hard situation. Please, take good care of yourself, and let me know if there's any way I can help.
xiphias
Aug. 4th, 2010 05:07 pm (UTC)
Wishing you strength.
magn0lia
Aug. 4th, 2010 05:39 pm (UTC)
I am thinking about you all too. Take care.
the_maenad
Aug. 4th, 2010 05:51 pm (UTC)
All my sympathy to you.
hnybny
Aug. 5th, 2010 12:14 am (UTC)
{{{{{{{{{vibes}}}}}}}}}} and *hugs*
necturus
Aug. 5th, 2010 03:20 am (UTC)
Ouch.

I'll keep you and your Dad in my thoughts.
indigodove
Aug. 5th, 2010 04:21 am (UTC)
*hugs* I'm very sorry to hear this. Will keep you & yours in thoughts and prayers.
moominmuppet
Aug. 5th, 2010 05:02 am (UTC)
*many hugs* I'm so, so sorry to hear this. You and he and the rest of the family will be in my thoughts.
baratron
Aug. 6th, 2010 02:31 am (UTC)
I'm sorry. Good thoughts at this difficult time.
kat_chan
Aug. 6th, 2010 03:27 am (UTC)
*hugs* My thoughts are with you and your family.
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